Why Are We Still Having Trouble Getting Along As One Humanity?

Integrate, unify, cease the hate and violence of separation?

Unified Hands Together

Unified Hands

Yes, it would be nice to get more people to treat others better who may appear different them, it is even necessary for our evolution … yet how do we expect this to happen … do we tell them to and expect that they can?

Now they may intellectually want to be more integrated, they may talk this way, yet down in, they are part of a specific definition or group, and this is what they are comfortable with.

And these definitions are based on our foundational perceptions … which are the basis of bow we identify our self, I Am this and that … which defines our perspective.

Our current foundational perceptions of life and self are somewhere between Oneness, our innate connection to the Whole of Life, and an acquired Separation perception, the concept that we are not connected, that we are separate and alone.

When we are operating more through Oneness, we know we have innate value, we are basically loving and compassionate … mostly in a peaceful state.

Whereas, operating through Separation, we feel disconnected, alone, have no innate value, and thinking we must fend for our self.

This Separation disconnect has us seeking to create value to fill an emptiness, and then to feel good about it. This is done through our actions, accomplishments, strength, accumulations, and exertion of power and influence. All these are collected and claimed as parts of our ‘self’, defining our self as a value, something then we feel good about.

This creating a ‘self’ to feel good about has us defining it in very specific ways, this is what I AM … I Am this and that. These specific claims are what the EGO helps us feel good about through self validation, justification, and defense, while helping us avoid the discomfort of anything which may challenge this ‘self’ … essentially closing our mind to anything new and different.

So,under the influence of Separation, we go about thinking and doing most exclusively for our ‘self’, as this is defined as being separate from all else. This is the behavior commonly called Egotistical, selfish, greedy, hateful, manipulative, where the effects on others or the planet are of little to no concern to the Separation based ‘self’.

Whereas, operating though Oneness, knowing our innate value and connectedness, we have no need or drive to create or add value to a ‘self’ in order to have something to feel good about. Thus nothing to seek to validate, justify, or defend. What we do for ourselves is inclusive of the Whole, as we have not claimed any specific separators to our identity.

What we feel comfortable with then is whatever we claim our ‘self’ to be, with all the various added specifics … “I am this and that”.

Now this claim of self is rooted in and based on our foundational perception of life and self, so any alterations to the ‘self’ cannot violate those deepest perceptions.

If an individual has grown up identifying with a specific definition of group, this will likely still be their foundation. This foundation will guide them unconsciously based on comfort with what is familiar, and avoiding the discomfort of the unfamiliar.

Why, we ask, do certain people tend to group together in certain groups and not in others? … it is a deep perceptional foundation doing the guiding below our awareness.

The Root of Suffering is Attachment

The Root of Suffering is Attachment

Why, also, do certain people feel threatened when other people appearing to be in different groups, propose changing something we are comfortable with? … again, our programming based on Foundational perceptions.

All Separation essentially forms an ‘us and them’ perspective, as the specifics we have accumulated and attached to our ‘self’ in themselves exclude all else.

So, not only do we claim “I Am this and that”, we also by default claim, “I Am not thus and so”

Comfort  and discomfort then directs. We make most choices based on how we feel.

The only way out of this attachment based behavior around a specifically defined ‘self’ is to drop all of it, to reconnect with your innate Oneness, where a defined ‘self’ is not needed or desired. We can then see and know our deep connection to all people, our common link, which does not exclude anyone through acquired definitions.

We are then not uncomfortable in contrast to something specific about the behavior of other people, not feeling threatened, and then not defensive, not tending to avoid.

As long as we have specifically definable attributes of self perceptively defining who we think we are, we will be subject to it, and react accordingly.

If you ask, tell, or try to make a person who is operating through Separation to be nice to others, to accept them … it will not compute for them, they may even think you are the weird one.

Some people may have intellectually rationalized that all people should be accepted and considered as one humanity, yet if they are still programmed and defined by a ‘self’ rooted on the foundational perception of Separation, this will still have influence at the subconscious level.

Dancing in Unity

Dancing in Unity

Looking into your Foundational Perceptions is the core of how you change, and how you are Being the change you desire for the world, for yourself.

As you choose to bring your awareness to recognizing your innate Oneness, you will come to see more and more that you are connected with everyone, and your Separation based concept of ‘self’ will begin to diminish as the need for it goes away. Your current iteration of self becomes just how you are functioning right now, not who you are.

About John Halderman
I've been studying about life, how it works and what we can do with it for over 30 years. This has included many religions, philosophies, spirituality, psychology and sciences along with my own personal discovery and growth. Through all this I have come to feel we are all of one source. We have many varied descriptions of this source and our role within it, with a thread of commonality running through them all connecting our oneness. I feel that our putting more attention to this oneness is what will bring us together as one operating force of love and understanding. It is my purpose to help oneness and unity to become our functional reality. John Halderman

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